Falling in Love
"Falling..you see..we don't say rising into love. There is in it the idea of the fall, and it goes back to extremely fundamental things...that there is always a a curious tie between the fall and the creation. Taking this costly risk is the condition of there being life. You see, for all...the life is an act of faith and an act of gamble."
I just want to address some weird things that have happened in my life recently. My friend and I both got out of long relationships and had a good talk the other day. She told me she was seeing someone new...almost right out of her relationship. I asked if he was a rebound, if she genuinely liked him, and why she didn't stay single longer.
For some reason...I felt angry. I have learned my whole life that being STRONG means being independent and being content without a partner by my side. So, that's exactly what I did for the last few months. Someone new came into my life and I resented this. I've always thought that falling in love meant that I was placing my insecurities in someone else, or that I couldn't have my own individuality.
I told my friend this, and that I thought she was rushing into things too quickly with her new boyfriend. They had mentioned getting married after just a month of knowing each other. What she said to me was very different from what I'm used to hearing. She said that falling in love is not an insecurity. It was a very real feeling of love and compassion felt with another person. She was independent, but she wanted to share her life with someone else, and if you think about that, it is a bold move to shake off your pride and allow yourself to feel.
This is something refreshing for those who are single, in a relationship, or don't know what the hell they are doing. It's okay to be single, and your independence is sacred. However, to believe that you are brave enough to plunge into love is an act of faith that we are often too afraid to do. This is why we see half-assed relationships and divorce. You must fall into love with unwavering faith.
"The moment you take a step you do so on an act of faith because you don't really know that the floor is not going to give under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. See, you've given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done. Surrender. And love is an act of surrender to another person...so that's quite mad because it's letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control."
I think my point is...I'm quite tired of being single because I think it's the "strong" thing to do. Be willing to surrender and reach that point of madness, or live a bland life for the rest of your days on earth. One of my favorite quotes says:
"Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are way too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them"
So if you think you've met the one, let yourself fall. Don't be weak. Experience something you've never felt before and feel liberated~
Much love<3
I just want to address some weird things that have happened in my life recently. My friend and I both got out of long relationships and had a good talk the other day. She told me she was seeing someone new...almost right out of her relationship. I asked if he was a rebound, if she genuinely liked him, and why she didn't stay single longer.
For some reason...I felt angry. I have learned my whole life that being STRONG means being independent and being content without a partner by my side. So, that's exactly what I did for the last few months. Someone new came into my life and I resented this. I've always thought that falling in love meant that I was placing my insecurities in someone else, or that I couldn't have my own individuality.
I told my friend this, and that I thought she was rushing into things too quickly with her new boyfriend. They had mentioned getting married after just a month of knowing each other. What she said to me was very different from what I'm used to hearing. She said that falling in love is not an insecurity. It was a very real feeling of love and compassion felt with another person. She was independent, but she wanted to share her life with someone else, and if you think about that, it is a bold move to shake off your pride and allow yourself to feel.
This is something refreshing for those who are single, in a relationship, or don't know what the hell they are doing. It's okay to be single, and your independence is sacred. However, to believe that you are brave enough to plunge into love is an act of faith that we are often too afraid to do. This is why we see half-assed relationships and divorce. You must fall into love with unwavering faith.
"The moment you take a step you do so on an act of faith because you don't really know that the floor is not going to give under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. See, you've given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done. Surrender. And love is an act of surrender to another person...so that's quite mad because it's letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control."
I think my point is...I'm quite tired of being single because I think it's the "strong" thing to do. Be willing to surrender and reach that point of madness, or live a bland life for the rest of your days on earth. One of my favorite quotes says:
"Unless it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of your time. There are way too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn't be one of them"
So if you think you've met the one, let yourself fall. Don't be weak. Experience something you've never felt before and feel liberated~
Much love<3
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